Do you find yourself feeling jaded, sarcastic, and cynical about online dating? A little more negative than you care to see yourself? A tad more reactive to the recent ghosting incident, or to the insensitive remark from someone you've never even met and shouldn't care about at all? Good news! There's probably a reason for this. You're probably burned out. Dating burnout can be as mysterious and elusive as it is detrimental to our dating lives until we learn to identify it and deal with it. As with career burnout, and other kinds of burnout, dating burnout creeps up on us. The first few times it happens, we can't quite pinpoint what's happening until we're deep in the quicksand of burnout itself. Online daters usually just "muscle through" imagining that if they just keep going, they'll meet the one who will make all the pain worth the struggle. How protestant and masochistic of us all. Here are some of the signs of online burnout and a simple roadmap for how to start dealing with it...
Lauren Korshak is a San Francisco-based Marriage and Family Therapist, Meditation Teacher, Dating & Relationship Coach, and former matchmaker. She has a BA in Psychology from University of Southern California (USC) and an MA in Somatic Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS.) In her free time, Lauren can be found dancing, meditating, adventuring outdoors, making music, and spending QT with loved ones.