Fall marks the beginning of a transition from outward focused activities like travel and summer sports, social parties, picnics, and barbecues to more inwardly focused activities, like focusing on work, reconnecting with friends and family, and spending time indoors.
Fall can also be a wonderful transition period into a time of deep listening and reflection. If you can listen to
yourself – all of yourself, face and be with your anxieties, your fears, your sorrows, as well as your joys and happiness, all that cognitive dissonance, the disconnect between body and mind can soften as you find more connection inwardly.
I recently went on a meditation retreat, which felt timely in supporting this transition inward, reconnecting with myself, and listening deeply during this seasonal transition from summer to autumn. I had an amazing experience while there that transformed my relationship to food, through the simple act redirecting my attention inwards. I’d like to share the practice with you today.
As the days get shorter and seemingly busier, I’m using the mindful eating practice I developed as one of my meditative practices. I’m offering the steps below as guidelines for those who are ready and looking to turn their relationship with food into one of connection with the body.
This practice can be helpful for those who are prone to overeating or under eating during the holidays.
Try to do this practice before at least 5 meals during the week for best results.
The Practice (Eating as Listening):
1. About 20 minutes before a meal, take some time out of your day by yourself to listen. Close your eyes and be still. Gently bring your attention to listening. Try to listen to sounds beyond your immediate environment as though listening from the outer edges of your ears. Allow thoughts to be there but continue directing your attention to your ears and to listening. The only objectives here are to still yourself and to actively listen. Do this until you get a feeling of sweetness (however you experience this) or a sense of relaxation.
2. When you feel some sense of sweetness or relaxation, open eyes softly, allow yourself to walk around a bit (you may need to walk to the place where you will be eating or maybe just take a walk in your yard or down the hallway at work or around the block). Keep your attention here still on listening from the outer edges of your ears -- listening to inner experiences and to the way your body wants to move. Walk slowly and see if you can find fullness, pleasure, relaxation, and sweetness in your movement, even if your stride feels different than usual.
3. When you have walked for a few minutes (or as long as feels good), continue to stay in touch with this feeling as you sit down to eat from this place of fullness and sweetness. Keep your attention on listening and your focus on the listening practice. Allow the food to enhance that experience, but be careful to keep your attention on your own feeling rather than shifting it to the outer experience of the food.
Why is this a helpful practice?
When we overeat or under eat we are trying to fill or manage emptiness and other undefinable messy feelings. By listening to the emptiness and this mess of feelings, we feel our fullness. By being okay with empty, we no longer feel empty.
If we eat from this place, eating is no longer about filling or about the food. The act of eating becomes about enhancing the experience and fullness that is already in us, waiting to be recognized and felt.
Please post comments, thoughts, and questions below!
Lauren Korshak is a San Francisco-based Marriage and Family Therapist, Meditation Teacher, Dating & Relationship Coach, and former matchmaker. She has a BA in Psychology from University of Southern California (USC) and an MA in Somatic Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS.) In her free time, Lauren can be found dancing, meditating, adventuring outdoors, making music, and spending QT with loved ones.